Poppy is the author of A Bard's Lament and the Black Diamond series. She lives in Enoshima with her husband and young son.
Dragon Age: Inquisition is a role-playing epic fantasy game, the latest in the fantastic Dragon Age series by BioWare. One of the many great features of this game is the ability to romance certain characters; in this case, there are eight possible romantic relationships you can pursue, although these depend on your own character's gender and race.
Bioware is happily LGBT-friendly, and has been expressing this since Dragon Age: Origins where Leliana, Zevran, and Isabela were bisexual.
Despite threats to boycott and general shock from certain countries, Dragon Age: Inquisition provided us with a fresh batch of gay and pansexual characters. Sera, for example, is a lesbian and is only possible to romance if your character is female.
*Note, you can romance Sera as any race, but she especially loves Qunari and Dwarf women.
Sera is a funny character, often babbling in nonsense though at heart, she's a good person. She completely rejects people who are too “elfy,” and loves to “stick little baddies with little arrows.”
You first meet her after the scrap in Val Royeaux, where the Templars basically tell you to stick the Breach up your unmentionable, giving you a choice between helping the Templars and the Mages in a later mission.
Cassandra will exclaim "What's this? An arrow with a message?" shortly after the cutscene. Pick up the arrow, and "A Friend of Red Jenny" quest will be activated. The group has hidden clues around the city to track down a location. To find the clues:
- Head to the locations marked on your map. You sometimes will need to use the available fast travel points.
- Use the search feature (R3 for Playstation or the V key for PC)
- Pick up the three hidden red items
This opens a new location. Travel there to fight through some easy bandits, and watch the cutscene where Sera appears.
Depending on your race, she'll react slightly differently to you. The Qunari reaction is the best, but it doesn't matter what race you chose; it is possible to romance her if you're an elf, a dwarf or a human, too.
Sera will request to join the Inquisition. Accept her offer.
Sera hangs out in the tavern in Haven. Approach her as soon as you can. You'll sit down with her and have a chat. Make sure you do this before the “In Your Heart Shall Burn” quest.
Select "you think it should be easy" to gain a little approval, and then flirt by selecting the romance option, "I think I'll like you too."
Choosing Between the Mages and the Templars
When it comes to choosing between the Mages and the Templars, you have two choices that would make Sera greatly approve, giving you a nice boost to her approval rating. These are:
- Choose the templars and disband them (Solas and Cole will also greatly approve, but you will lose approval from Cassandra, Blackwall, Iron Bull, Vivienne and Dorian).
- Choose the mages and conscript them (also gaining approval from Iron Bull and Vivienne, but losing approval from Cole, Solas, Dorian and Blackwall).
Approval in Skyhold
Chat to her in Skyhold and choose any option EXCEPT "Andraste? Not an elven god?" (elf character only). This affects the next line. Depending which one pops up:
Select the romance option "Thanks for the 'pretty' part." or
Select the romance option "I hope there's more you want."
If you're a Qunari or a Dwarf, you will gain more approval than if you're a human or an elf.
Next, complete “The Vierchiel March” quest and speak to Warden in Crestwood as soon as you are able. Approach her again and if you have an approval score of at least 35 (which you should have if you have followed the previous steps) she will ask you if you want to pull some pranks with her. Select the romance option "time with you sounds like fun".
Agree with Sera on all the pranks and when Solas calls "Who is up there?" select "Run!" for approval. Then select "Anything to keep us inspired."
Go talk to Sera and she'll ask you to go somewhere alone with her. Select the romance option "I'm ready for anything."
Sera will eat some cookies with you. Select any of the dialogue options; whatever feels right to you, as these won't affect her approval. Then select:
- "Throwing them sounds like fun!"
- "I look forward to it."
- "I'm annoyed but also grateful!" or "Hold on, let's calm down!"
By now, Sera will be comfortable enough to talk to you about her past. Ask her questions, but avoid remarks like "it's nice getting to know another elf" (elf character only) and "don't keep secrets."
Eventually, Sera will respond to your advance of "I'm interested in you."
Sera will say that she bought you a hat, and your character will worry about getting her a present (aww!) Ask the rest of your companions for advice on what to get her, and after that, approach her in her room. Cue the romance scene!
"Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts"
If you choose to take Sera with you to the Winter Palace, an extra quest will appear: “Red Jenny's Stashes.” Finding one of the stashes grants you some approval from Sera. If you don't take her with you, this quest is not available.
Approach her at the ball and select "how are you fitting in?" ONLY if your Court Approval is 60 or lower. Also, ask her to dance.
When it comes to making a decision between supporting Briala, Celene or Gaspard, you can either:
- Say "I'll talk with Florianne" and then "Take her away" OR
- "Detain the Duchess" OR
- Call for a public truce, then select "Work together for Orlais" then "You've been outplayed" or "you work for me now." All of these earn Sera's approval.
- DO NOT select "Wait for Florianne to attack" as Sera will greatly disapprove.
- If Celene rules alone, select the option "No. Spare Gaspard's life." This will only be available if you have sufficient Court Approval.
You'll see a sweet scene where Sera will dance with you.
After you've completed "Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts":
Approach Sera's room in the tavern where she's having a tantrum. Select any of the options when you're standing outside her door, and when inside, select:
- "Earwigs. That'd stop a ball."
- "Their mistakes made it worse."
After you've completed "Here Lies the Abyss":
Approach Sera again and select the following:
- "A difficult time for everyone" OR "All I know is we lost people."
- "What do you remember" OR "What was the Blight like?"
After you've completed the quest "What Pride Had Wrought", Sera will ask to talk to you about Mythal.
- The first dialogue options have no approval change, so you can select any of them.
- When she asks "This threat was a test?" select any of the options EXCEPT "Never again, you hear me?"
- "I agree it was all lies."
Many players of Dragon Age: Inquisition agree that Sera is one of the most entertaining romantic relationships of them all. With this guide, you'll be losing your breeches with her in no time. Have fun!
Questions & Answers
Question: I no longer have the “I’m interested in you” option and only have the “roof time” option or whatever. Did I get friend zoned by Sera in Dragon Age: Inquisition?
Answer: Once you’ve finished the Well of Sorrows quest, the option to romance Sera is no longer available.
Question: I did all the romance things for Sera in "Dragon Age: Inquisition" and people said that you can marry her, how can I?
Answer: You need to buy the Trespasser DLC to marry Sera.
Question: I managed to get the cookies and gift quest before the winter palace and I have just finished it will I get the romance tarot card I haven't got that yet?
Answer: You’ll have to finish her romance first. Have you been to her in the room and slept with her yet? Have you finished all her war table quests?
Question: In Dragon Age: Inquisition, after Mythal, the option to say "I'm interested in you" is not available. Why is this?
Answer: You must have missed some steps to romancing her earlier in the story.
Question: I allied with the Templars in Dragon Age. Is it still possible to romance her? I am currently at the Warden in Crestwood quest. What can I do?
Answer: Allying with the Templars doesn't destroy your chances with Sera, you just lose some approval from her. You need to maximize her approval (still perfectly possible) using the steps in this article and continue to flirt.
Question: I am playing Dragon Age: Inquisition and I did everything right for the party but Sera didn't ask for a dance? I would like to know what I did wrong.
Answer: Have you exhausted all her dialogue wheels? Finished all her war table quests? Hit maximum approval? Those are the only things I can think of.
Question: So I have Sera's romance maxed out, I’ve done all her scenes and I’m right before finishing the quest where you go to the temple and can’t romance her after, as well as asked her about her past and when I got to the “I’m interested in you” option when says she wants to travel more. Is it because we didn’t dance at the party?
Answer: I've found this glitch in the game at times as well. Some people have reported that despite doing everything in the guide, they always got the "I'm interested in you" dialogue. Not dancing at the party probably damaged your chances as well.
Question: How do you get Briala's dance scene in "Dragon Age: Inquisition"?
Answer: You have to ask her to dance before the end of the Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts quest.
Question: I followed the guide for romancing Sera in Dragon Age point by point and got 125 Approval (currently completed by Mythal). All romance accomplished except for a few things and did not come to dance, no gift... nothing. Did the game make a mistake or something?
Answer: You have to exhaust every single dialogue wheel, but you'll have to reload from before Mythal because you can't romance her after that. Even if you've talked to her on every subject before, you have to select all her dialogue wheels again for different answers.
Question: Do I have to repeat all dialogues after each mission? It is a bit strange. If I have maximum approval does it matter? Do I have to do some side-mission or not? Thanks for the answers.
Answer: Yes, you have to talk to her as much as possible and exhaust every dialogue wheel. Try doing them all now and seeing if it works (did you manage to open a save before the Mythal quest?)
Question: After which mission does Sera in Dragon Age say "I'm interested in you"?
Answer: It should be after "Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts" and "What Pride Had Wrought" but BEFORE drinking from the Well of Sorrows.
Question: I am playing Dragon Age. So I messed up the first part, as an elf I forgot to recruit her before Haven got attacked. I recruited her later after the Inquisition moved to Skyhold. Can I still trigger her romance? Or do I have to restart?
Answer: Try asking her absolutely everything on her dialogue wheel and completing all her quests (including the War Table quests) and you might still have a chance. I don't know for sure because I've never recruited her that late before.
Question: When do you get Sera’s romance tarot card in "Dragon Age: Inquisition"?
Answer: Finish her War Table missions, and when you have had the scene where you've slept together (and perhaps finished Here Lies the Abyss, though I'm not 100% sure), her tarot card will appear.
© 2016 Poppy
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on December 02, 2019:
I'm glad it worked out for you!
My girl is best on December 02, 2019:
The one who asked too much. ,,Thank you very much´´ - she told me right after her personal assignment. So perhaps it will turn out well. I go to their wedding.
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on November 30, 2019:
Hi! I had the same problem on my last playthrough. I don't know if it's a bug or what, but I'll do some research on it.
My girl is best on November 30, 2019:
Hi, I followed the guide point by point and got 125 Approval (currently completed by Mythal). All romance accomplished except for a few things and did not come to dance, no gift ... nothing.Only Cookies. Did game made a mistake or something? (I'm sorry from Czech)
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on February 15, 2019:
It also happened to me on my last two playthroughs but I assumed there was a problem with my copy. The only other thing I can think of is to exhaust every single one of her dialogue wheels.
Shawnsylvania on February 13, 2019:
There’s definitely a bug too this part I did everything I had too, even after Mythal and she comes on to you. The option too say I’m interested in you just dosnt show up anymore when it always has lol
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on January 03, 2019:
You can do them in either order. It doesn't affect the romance.
Dave on January 03, 2019:
Do you have to do the Ball before the fade? I did fade first
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on May 18, 2017:
Also are you asking her to dance while you're inside the ballroom (before the fate of Celene is decided)? I think if you bring it up earlier it'll be easier for you to get her to dance at the appropriate time.
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on May 18, 2017:
Sure, try that and then let me know if you manage to fix it.
JaceCar from Ohio, USA on May 18, 2017:
Not as an elf, unless I play warrior or rogue. It's always the elven mage I have difficulty with.
I have a theory... and if I can find a save file that doesn't take me too far back, I'll test it out. I'm thinking that asking for romance (or to dance) if her approval is completely maxed somehow doesn't allow it to work. So... I'll get her close and then back off a bit, then make the attempt. It's worth a shot.
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on May 17, 2017:
Ah I've never played on Nightmare/Pandemonium but I don't think it should affect the romancing. Very weird. She never dances with you?
JaceCar from Ohio, USA on May 15, 2017:
I don't know if it makes a difference... but I play on Nightmare (actual Pandemonium, but I don't think that modifies NPC interactions).
Romancing Sera is literally the only thing I haven't managed to master in the game, as far as I know.
JaceCar on May 15, 2017:
I've not flirted with anyone else (except Harding), maxed approval, flirted at every opportunity, done the personal quests, answered all the dialogue (properly)... but I still get the "we should travel around more" response.
FYI, I still get that response after Temple of Mythal if I follow the game that far.
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on May 14, 2017:
That's quite surprising. When I romanced her it was as an elf and had no problem getting her to dance. Did you follow all the romance steps before starting the Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts quest?
JaceCar on May 14, 2017:
I've romanced Sera several times, but *always* have difficulty doing so with an elven mage. Not once have I gotten her to dance with me at the end of Wicked Eyes & Wicked Hearts... It's frustrating, but I'm determined to figure it out. ;)
Getting her approval maxed is easy (zero positive approval past whatever point). Getting romance past that isn't as straightforward.
Poppy (author) from Enoshima, Japan on April 10, 2017:
Wow, really? That's awesome, I didn't know that.
WenDiesel on April 10, 2017:
I've found through trial and error that if you wait to gain all of her approval till she accepts your advances, and THEN, do the wicked eyes & hearts quest, will she dance with you, unhindered.