"Stardew Valley" Marriage Guide

Updated on August 6, 2019
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Bachelors And Bachelorettes!

Stardew Valley allows players of either sex to marry any of these eligible bachelors or bachelorettes! The only difference is that obviously any children brought into the marriage will be adopted if the couple is same sex.


Friendship Levels And Dating

In order to fall in love with one of the bachelors or bachelorettes, you need to first increase your friendship levels with them. You can view your progress under the menu. You can gift any person two times a week. Talking to them once each day also gives a small increase to your friendship level.

At certain points you'll unlock events. This only applies to bachelors and bachelorettes however you can still gain friendship levels with the other towns people, who will reward you with recipes in the mail.

Gift giving is not as simple however as just giving them anything you have in your inventory. Everyone has preferences and dislikes, choosing items that they love will significantly increase your friendship levels while giving them things they dislike will have negative effects.

Once you have reached 8 hearts you can ask your sweetheart to date you. The bouquet will become available at Pierre's General Store and by purchasing it and gifting it to them they should accept your proposal. This does not count towards the 2 gift weekly cut off and can actually be used to help increase your relationship if needed.

You cannot break up with someone once you start dating, however you can still be a two-timer and date and marry someone else instead. This will cause the others to get jealous though.

There is a decay rate if you don't interact for a day.

  • Married: -20 a day. Never stops decaying.
  • Dating: -8 a day. Stops decaying when you reach 10 hearts.
  • Non-partner Bachelor or Bachelorette: -2 a day. Stops decaying at 8 hearts.
  • Normal Villager: -2 a day. Stops decaying at 10 hearts.


Heart Events

While gaining friendship levels, you unlock character specific heart events. They are unique to each character and you could end up permanently missing them if you're not careful.

Haley's Level 10 Heart Event
Haley's Level 10 Heart Event | Source

Universal Gifts And Bonus Effects

Universal gifts are those that are typically loved, liked, neutral, or hated by everyone. Of course, there are exceptions. Keep in mind that During the Winter Star event there is a 5 times effect on gifts, and Birthdays give 8 times the effect.

Loved Gifts: +80 Friendship, +400 During Winter Star, +640 on Birthday

Like: +45 Friendship, +225 During Winter Star, +360 on Birthday

Neutral: +20 Friendship, +100 During Winter Star, +160 on Birthday

Dislike: -20 Friendship, -100 During Winter Star, -160 on Birthday

Hate: -40 Friendship, -200 During Winter Star, -320 On Birthday.

Item Quality also effects the amount of points given.

Silver: Times 1.1 Multiplier, +10%

Gold: Times 1.25 Multiplier, +25%

Iridium: Times 1.5 Multiplier, +50%

Universal Loves
Universal Likes
Universal Neutrals
Universal Dislikes
Universal Hates
Golden Pumpkin
All Aristan Goods (Except Oil and Void Mayonnaise both hated)
All Building Materials
All Cooking (Except Fried Egg and Bread which are Universal Neutrals, and Strange Bun that is hated)
Fried Egg
Battery Packs, Clay, Fiber
Prismatic Shard
All Flowers (Except Poppy, hated)
Sweet Gem Berry
All Bombs
Monster Loot (Solar Essence and Void Essence are Disliked)
Rabbit's Foot
All Foraged Minerals (Except Quartz, varies)
All Crafted Floors and Paths
Trash (Driftwood is disliked)
All Fruit Tree Fruits
All Fences
All Gems (Except Prismatic Shard, loved)
All Fertilizer
Copper Ore
All Vegetables and Fiddlehead Fern (Wheat and Hops are Universal Neutrals)
All Fish (Clam is Neutral, Carp and snails are Hates)
Crab Pot
Life Elixir
Nautilus Shell
All Geode Minerals
Drum Block
Maple Syrup
All Geodes
Energy Tonic
Duck Feather
All Seeds (including foraged and fruit trees)
Error Item
Rainbow Shell
All Sprinklers
Explosive Ammo
All Tackle
Flute Block
Most Metal: Coal, Copper Bars, Gold Bars, Gold Ore, Iridium Bars, Iridium Ore, Iron Bars, Refined Quarts
Grass Starter
Cave Carrot
Green Algae
Tea Set
Iron Ore
Mermaids Pendant
Pine Tar
Muscle Remedy
Oil of Garlic
Field Snack
Rain Totem
Void Egg
Red Mushroom
Solar Essence
Sea Urchin
Void Essence
Oak Resin
Secret Note
Spring Onion
Slime Egg
Wheat Flour
Strange Bun
Treasure Chest
Void Mayonanaise
Warp Totem: Beach
Warp Totem: Farm
Warp Totem: Mountains
White Algae


Once you've reached 10 hearts you'll be able to buy the marriage item, Mermaid's Pendant to propose. The NPC who sells this item, the Old Mariner can be found on the eastern part of the beach after repairing the bridge, during rainy weather only. He will only sell you the item if you have reached level 10 friendship with someone and your farmhouse has been upgraded.



3 days after you propose, your wedding ceremony will take place first thing in the morning. When the cutscenes are complete you'll appear on your farm at 6 AM with your spouse who has just moved in! If the third day lands on a holiday your wedding will take place the day after instead.

Once you are married, you can raise your friendship rate to a hidden level 13. You can now give a single gift every day rather than only twice a week.

Each spouse will build their own unique room to the side of the bedroom within the farmhouse.

Kissing your spouse can reward you with some energy once per day.

If you gift any of the other eligible bachelors (of the same gender as the one you married) your spouse could become jealous. If so you receive a penalty of 30 friendship points.

Spouses actually come with benefits rather than just existing on your farm.

  • Feeds animals
  • Fills pet bowl
  • Repairs broken fences
  • Gives gifts (breakfast and dinner)
  • Waters crops on the farm during Spring, Summer and Fall.

You can get divorced from your spouse by visiting the Mayor's Manor and interacting with a book. It will cost you 50,000 currency and you only have until the end of the day to change their mind by cancelling. If you do so they will carry the title "Ex" and have negative interactions going forward. They will return to their old home, and any children from the marriage will remain at the farmhouse. Their unique rooms and areas will also disappear. Ex's will not accept gifts from you anymore either.

If you decide you want to re-marry that character, you could turn to the Witch's Hut and pay an offering of 30,000 currency for their memories to be erased.



There is a 5% chance that your spouse will ask you if you want to have or adopt a child (depending on your genders). If you choose to say yes, 14 days later a baby will be born or be delivered. Careful though, do not complete any of the Community Center or JojaMart bundles the night before the baby is due or the event may just be skipped entirely.

You can have only 2 children, 1 boy and 1 girl. They will not grow past the toddler stage, and you cannot have your second child until the first has reached that stage.

If you'd like to get rid of children, you can turn to the dark shrine at the Witch's Hut with a prismatic Shard, exchanging it for them to be turned into doves.

Questions & Answers


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      • Heather Lengel profile imageAUTHOR

        Heather Lengel 

        8 months ago from Cleveland, Ohio

        It is! I prefer it over other farming simulators because it's easy to return to without being overwhelmed.

      • Larry Slawson profile image

        Larry Slawson 

        8 months ago from North Carolina

        I have heard so much about this game. Looks really fun!


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