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"The Sims 4" Guide: How to Snap Sims out of Sadness After a Death

Kenzie needed a quick escape from real-life pressures, and found "The Sims 4." She now enjoys playing, writing, and YouTubing the game.

When Your Sim Is in Mourning

Mourning is a natural part of life, so many feel that Sims mourning their dead adds an element of realism to the game. You might want to play that mourning period out as part of your game.

Sometimes, though, it can be a huge bother and get in the players' way.

If you can't wait two days for your Sim to recover from a death, there are a few things you can do to speed up the process.

There was a time when Sims ignored the death of anyone who didn't die in their presence. Players complained, so game makers tried to make Sims care more about their dearly departed. Now, Sim mourning is in overdrive.

There was a time when Sims ignored the death of anyone who didn't die in their presence. Players complained, so game makers tried to make Sims care more about their dearly departed. Now, Sim mourning is in overdrive.

Why Rush Your Sims When They're Mourning?

Sims mourn erratically.

Our little simulated friends can't seem to tell the difference between a very close relative and an acquaintance they met at a bar once. They will mourn a spouse and the mailman they said "hello" to once with equal intensity, and for the same amount of time. Even toddlers and children will mourn relatives they have never met.

As your Sim ages or as families produce new generations, other Sims will inevitably start dropping like flies. The mourning timer keeps getting reset and Sims can remain in misery indefinitely. This constant mourning can get in their way of learning skills, progressing in school, succeeding in their career or having any kind of social life.

It can really stall the game for the player. When such erratic mourning is ruining your game, you don't have to put up with it for long.

How to Help Your Sim Mourn

Most of these can only be done when your Sim is suffering from sadness, but doing them will help push that sadness away and decrease the mourning period.

Call Sadness Hotline

Sims who are teens or older have an option on their phones to call the "Sadness Hotline." This is found under the social menu. The calls last around 20 minutes. Try spamming the hotline; the benefits are cumulative.

Pep Talk

Sims who are very sad can go to any mirror to give themselves a pep talk. Just click on the mirror for the option to appear. Like the hotline, spamming the pep talk option can also reduce the length of mourning and make way for more positive moodlets.

Cry

Crying can help Sims of all ages over the mourning hump. Have them cry it out in bed, in a closet, or, for pregnant Sims and toddlers, just let them drop an emotion bomb wherever they may be. Tears are healing.

Write in Journals

Children and teen Sims can vent about their sadness through writing. Just buy them a journal through the bookshelf or computer and keep it in their inventory. Click on the journal and click the "Express Melancholy Thoughts" option. Again, do this repeatedly in a row to reduce the mourning time. This also helps them increase their emotional control if you're hoping for them to obtain that trait when they become young adults.

Jog

If you click on your Sim and the option "Jog to Clear Mind" comes up, take it. They get exercise, and a clear head.

Get Online

Sad Sims have the option to read obituaries or blog about their feelings on the computer.

Mourn the Deceased

If you know where the deceased Sim's grave or urn is, your Sim can go to it and mourn. This is a lengthy process and actually increases the sadness for four hours, but in the long run it might shorten the length of the mourning moodlet.

The Sadness Hotline is a good way for Sims to get their feelings off their chest. It's fast, it's free, and it works.

The Sadness Hotline is a good way for Sims to get their feelings off their chest. It's fast, it's free, and it works.

Other Ways to Help Keep Your Sim's Spirits Up

If you can't make the sad moodlets run out quickly enough, bury them under positive moodlets. Mourning produces a +5 sad moodlet, so you want more than +5 of positive moodlets (happy, energized, focused, flirty or playful) to outweigh the sadness.

Note, if your Sim has certain negative emotional traits, such as "Gloomy" or "Hot-Headed," it may be harder to combat. Just keep trying everything to bombard your Sim with positivity.

Keep Filling the Sim's Needs

A well-cared for Sim is a happy Sim, so try and keep her bladder, hunger, energy, fun, social and hygiene bars in the green. Full needs give a +1 to +2 happy moodlets.

Give Them Something Delicious

A yummy meal can raise a Sim's happy moodlets by +1 to +3, so don't just keep the hunger bar full. Fill it with something good.

Spruce up Their Environment

If there is any dirt or grime, your Sim will get uncomfortable and pile up negative moodlets. Clean the house, or get a maid for a day.

An environment that decorated nicely will boost your Sim's happy moodlets by up to 3 points for each item. Put some pretty artwork on the walls and a vase of fresh flowers on the table, and it just might help keep your Sim chugging along.

Have Them Get Out

Meeting and socializing with Sims in better moods will help improve the mood of your Sim, if only for a little while.

Get Them Married, or Pregnant

A wedding or a pregnancy give Sims hope for the future, and those powerful happy moodlets will override most negative moodlets.

Warning: This is not a good time to propose. These sad moodlets are more likely to cause your Sim to be rejected. Getting a proposal rejected can make things much worse; it can even kill your Sim.

This Sim Overcame Sadness for a Couple of Hours

All she did was grab a bite and chat with a playful Sim for a little while. The positive moodlets now outweigh the one negative moodlet.

All she did was grab a bite and chat with a playful Sim for a little while. The positive moodlets now outweigh the one negative moodlet.

More Ways to Perk up Your Sim: Mood Enhancers

Sims don't need to resort to drugs for mood enhancers. There are plenty of things in their universe that will do the trick, as if by magic. However, most have a downside so weigh these options carefully.

Coffee

From The Sims 4: Get Together expansion pack, most coffees will give a +1 positive moodlet that lasts for four hours. Order some Expresso (energized moodlet), Macciato (playful), 'Mericano (confident) or Mocha (flirty).

The Perfect Pre-Work Shot makes your Sim happy for 24 hours!

Downside: Coffee lowers bladder bar.

Tea

The "Tea Magic Personal Brewer" gives +2 positive moodlets for four hours each. Try Earl Grey, Hot (confident), Healthy Green (happy), Pitch Black (Focused), Run Oolong (Energized) or Steamy Ginseng (Flirty).

Downside: tea lowers bladder bar.

Incense

From The Sims 4: Spa Day game pack, each incense gives a +1 positive moodlet for four hours. Try burning Evocative Lemon (inspired), Invigorating Cinnamon (energized), Peaceful Patchouli (happy), Romantic Sandalwood (flirty), Sharpening Saffron (focused) or Soothing Sage (happy and tension relief).

Downside: Incense is a fire hazard.

A Massage

Also from The Sims 4: Spa Day, a full massage will work for 12 to 24 hours, while hand or foot massages will work for 4 to 6 hours. You can go to a spa to get a massage, or you can buy a massage table (or reflexology chair for hand and foot massages) to get them at home.

Aromatherapy Massage

  • Lavender Aromatherapy (Focused/12 hrs.)
  • Lotus Blossom Aromatherapy (Confident/12 hrs.)
  • Mint and Rosemary Aromatherapy (Energized/12 hrs.)
  • Ylang Ylang Aromatherapy (Inspired/12 hrs.)
  • Deep Tissue Massage (Happy/24 hrs.)
  • Fertility (Happy/12 hrs, also increases odds of twins or triplets if Sim is trying for a baby)
  • Foot massage (Happy/4 hrs.)
  • Hand massage (Happy/6 hrs.)
  • Sports Massage (Energized/12 hrs.)
  • Stone Massage (Happy/24 hrs.)
  • Swedish Massage (Happy/12 hrs.)

Downside: Massages are expensive if someone in your household doesn't have the "Wellness" skill to give them out for free. They also can be time consuming (up to 80 minutes).

She's still mourning, but the sad moodlet has been overtaken by all the happy moodlets her spa visit gave her.

She's still mourning, but the sad moodlet has been overtaken by all the happy moodlets her spa visit gave her.

Don't Forget Objects That Give Emotional Auras

Lots of objects in The Sims 4 radiate with mood auras that will affect any Sims in the room. The benefits will be continuous as long as the Sims stay in the room. Try looking for some of these objects:

  • Crystals (energy)
  • Fossils (confidence)
  • Metals (confidence)
  • Frogs (varied)
  • MySims Figures (playful)
  • Space rocks (varied)
  • Artwork (done by artists emanating certain emotions)
  • Some challenge and career rewards
  • Animal hats

The more you pile up items that radiate with positive emotions around your Sims, the faster they'll come out of their funk.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 Kenzie Cartwright