Weddings in The Sims 4
I am such a sucker for romance. I take my Sims' relationships very seriously. Laugh if you will, but when two of my Sims fall in love, I get giddy about all the things to come, from popping the question to arranging the wedding photos on their walls.
Of course, the highlight of planning a "happily ever after" is the wedding. Being the sap that I am, I was determined to figure out how to successfully pull off a gorgeous wedding that my Sims would remember fondly.
Okay, okay ... a wedding that I would remember fondly.
Here are some tips and suggestions to help you plan a successful wedding in The Sims 4.
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Decide What "Perfect" Means to You
What makes a wedding "perfect" is subjective. Which of these might ring your wedding bells?
- Spontaneously elope one afternoon on the beach while enjoying water sports and barbecue with a couple of close friends
- Hold a spooky costume party with creepy decorations, a zombie cake and a guest list consisting of mostly vampires.
- Throw a semi-formal garden wedding bash on a gorgeous spring day.
- Have a big, traditional "white wedding" at a stunning venue, complete with all the formalities
It really depends, not only on your own preferences but on the characters you're playing and what you think they would want.
For some people, the perfect wedding involves the unexpected. For some people, it would be a disappointing disaster if there was a fire or if the violinist keels over and died. Other people would get a kick out of such memorable surprises livening things up a bit. Think about these things before you even begin planning.
The Sims 4 lets you choose how you want your couple to get married. This is the first thing to consider when planning a wedding
As soon as your Sims become engaged, this option will appear on their radial menu. Once you click it, your Sims will hold a spontaneous ceremony then and there. Eloping is the best choice if:
- You are in a rush for your Sims to get married.
- You don't want to plan a wedding or don't think it fits their story.
- Your Sims are broke.
- You want to keep things as simple as possible.
Of course, you can still make eloping a special occasion, but when it comes to Sims getting hitched, this is the least fuss and muss option.
Another way to keep a wedding simple is to have a casual event. You don't have to initiate a formal social event, just invite your Sim's closest family and friends over to the lot of your choice.
- Decorate a little.
- Plan some activities, like dancing or ice skating,
- Prepare a lovely meal.
- Use a wedding arch or the elope option to hold a ceremony.
This option won't be a challenge with goals and prizes, but it can be a lovely, low-key way to get married.
Official "Social Event"
Click on your Sim's phone for the option of planning a social event. Social events cost money to plan, but it will help you organize your event. By going the official social event route, you will have the option to:
- Invite up to 16 guests
- Hire a caterer
- Hire a mixologist
- Hire an entertainer
- Make it a goaled event so that you can complete a challenge and win rewards (there is a box that you can check or un-check for this option).
If you choose to have a goaled event, your Sims will have to complete specific interactions for the event to be successful. If it is, they'll get a medal (gold, silver or bronze) and win a prize.
Note, while "wedding" is one option on the event menu, your Sims can technically get married at any type of event (black and white bash, spooky party, dinner party, weenie roast, etc.), goaled or not. Just keep in mind that each type of event would have different goals and rewards.
Getting Your Location Ready
Your Sims can get married just about anywhere in the world—parks, lounges, museums, or even in a private home. If you want to have a beautiful wedding, you may wish to visit the lot in manage worlds and get it ready.
Here are some things you might do to prepare the lot for a wedding:
- Put in a wedding arch. While you can nix the arch by choosing the "elope" option, it can be a nice touch.
- Decorate, if desired, with flowers, balloons, banners, etc., if you want to spruce up the place. You might even want to check the gallery for some lovely pre-made wedding venues.
- Make sure there is ample seating.
- If you plan to serve food, make sure the lot has tables and chairs, a fridge for storing food, or a kitchen facility for cooking.
- If you want to serve drinks, make sure the lot has a bar.
- A stereo or DJ booth is a great way to add some music so your guests can dance. Put in instruments if you would like to hire a musician.
- Make sure there are bathroom facilities available for the wedding party and guests, or things can take a turn for the worst very quickly.
- If you have the Seasons expansion pack and are planning an outdoor wedding, plant a June's Weather Control Device somewhere on the property. That way, if the weather is terrible on the day of the wedding, you can change it.
Getting Your Couple Ready
When you use the option to plan a social event on the phone, your Sims will automatically change into wedding attire when the event starts. Unfortunately, the wedding clothes they put on may not at all be in line with what you had in mind, so it is a good idea to plan their wedding outfits.
Outfits can be as traditional or as non-traditional as you like. Once the event begins, you can quickly change them into the outfits.
Other things to consider:
- For best results, make sure your Sims are happy before starting the wedding. Make sure needs like energy, hygiene, hunger, and bladder are all in the green. They will be more comfortable and much more cooperative at the wedding.
- Try to avoid doing anything to upset or traumatize the couple for the 24 hours before the wedding.
- If your Sims are experiencing negative moodlets, use potions or celebuserums to alter those moodlets before the event.
- Make sure to take a vacation day if your Sims are scheduled to work on the wedding day. You don't want the bride or groom to abruptly jump up and walk out of the wedding to go to work.
- If children or teens in your household will be attending the wedding, you might want to let them take a vacation day from school. School can be too much of an emotional rollercoaster for them, and you never know what mood they'll be in when they get home.
The Wedding Feast: Caterers and Other Options
You are given an option to hire a caterer. You would think hiring a caterer would make a wedding easier because you wouldn't have to worry about preparing food or baking a cake, but you would be wrong. Caterers cause more problems at my Sims' weddings than anything else, and I don't use them anymore.
Here are some typical problems with caterers:
- They show up late, or not at all.
- Instead of cooking, they socialize or dance. This is particularly likely to happen if the caterer is a friend or family member.
- They start cooking, get distracted and walk away.
- They finish cooking a dish and all the guests head to the kitchen to eat instead of waiting for the food to be served.
- Random caterers might be inexperienced and may accidentally start a fire, making for a stressful, if not deadly, event.
- They often fail to prepare a cake in time.
If you hire a caterer, just make sure you have a good kitchen facility. You might also want to bake a cake yourself just on the off chance the caterer fails you. Good luck.
Preparing the Food Yourself
I prefer to get my Sim with the highest cooking level to prepare two to five dishes and bake a wedding cake. My strategy is:
- Prepare the food the day before the wedding.
- Ideally, I prepare the foods at the venue and leave it in a fridge overnight.
- Turn the fridge around after cooking wedding foods so it is inaccessible. This will keep people from eating your food before the event starts.
- Make sure to put a wedding topper on the cake to avoid people cutting into it. You can store it in the fridge with a topper.
- When the event starts, bring the food (if you cooked it at home) or open the fridge at the event, then lay it out on a table for guests.
If you don't want to worry about food preparation or caterers, you have some easier options.
- Don't serve food at all, or maybe just bring a cake.
- Have the wedding at a lounge or bar that serves simple foods, like meat or hummus platters. Order a couple of platters that serve up to eight people and lay them out for guests.
- Have the wedding at a restaurant and order food for the wedding party. Realize that restaurants can take hours, though.
- If having an outdoor wedding, get some food vendor carts and pop them on the lot. Hire vendors to run them.
- For a cake without baking, place a working bakery from the gallery in your Sim's world. Make sure it serves cakes. Then have a Sim go there and purchase a cake.
- If you have the Luxury Party Stuff pack, get the Fancy Feast Banquet Table or the Banquetia Plateau. When you click on these tables to serve food, the food magically appears—no cooking or caterers required. It even has a nice platform in the center to place the wedding cake, but you must provide yourself.
Drinks for All
The social event option allows you to hire a mixologist. Mixologists are slightly more reliable than caterers, but they aren't necessary if your venue is a bar, lounge or nightclub. The staff mixologist at the site will be there and serve the wedding guests.
Of course, your Sims and their guests can make their own drinks if you provide a bar. You don't need a bartender. For a small wedding, this won't be a problem.
Bars aren't even necessary if you're not going for a goaled wedding event. During casual backyard weddings, I have just put out a drink tray of lemonade or iced tea and let the guests help themselves.
Hiring an Entertainer
When you plan a social event, you have the option of hiring an entertainer. I have found the entertainers to be almost as useless as the caterers. Sometimes they don't show up, sometimes they just eat and socialize, and sometimes they have no talent and stress out your guests with bad music.
Unfortunately, there is just no way to direct these employees to do their jobs. You just hire them and hope for the best. Let the buyer beware.
If you have a member of the household with musical talent, you can always just direct them to play or sing during the wedding whenever you want. This is a much better choice, in my opinion, than hiring an entertainer.
Use a DJ booth and select the option to hire a DJ when the event begins. You may get lucky and one might show up and do his job. If not, since the DJ booth doubles as a fancy stereo, you can just turn on some music.
Of course, you can keep it simple. Just get a stereo, jukebox or simple little boom box to play some tunes so your guests can dance at the reception.
After throwing many weddings and experimenting a little, I have learned a thing or two. I leave you now with a few nuggets of advice you may find useful:
- Have a household member max out the photography skill (max is level 5) and equip that Sim with the best camera you can buy. Make him the official event photographer.
- Turn off autonomy for your household if you want to micro-manage everyone to make sure they stick to your plan.
- Avoid having things around that start fires, such as cheap stoves, grills, fireplaces, fire pits or incense.
- Save the game a couple of hours before the wedding is slated to begin to preserve your preparations. That way, if disaster does strike, you can exit without saving and try again.
- If you don't want to turn your wedding into a funeral, avoid inviting elderly guests unless you are sure they are not near the end of their time.
- Be careful about holding outdoor weddings when it is extremely hot or cold. Guests can die. Change the date, change the weather or change to an indoor venue.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2019 Kenzie Cartwright